Wednesday, April 22, 2009

When and when not to stick your nose in it!

Like when your husband hands you the milk jug and says "smell this," when is it appropriate to stick your nose into something if you know it is going to smell bad?
It is believed that two members of our "group" are hooking up. Wouldn't be a problem, except one is married. I was told by someone what we all suspected and asked to speak with one of the "guilty" parties since I am close to them. Not sure if I want to. Don't really think it is my place to. I think everyone kind of already knows it is going on and is just looking the other way. If the husband knows, but doesn't want to come to the realization that it IS true, I don't want to be the person to make him look past those rosy glasses. But frankly, I don't want to get in the middle of it...let it run its course, hopefully it will end without a huge mess and all parties will return to their normal lives...that is what I believe will happen. I don't want it to come back on me because I "called someone out" because of some clause in the good friend manual that says I should have a motherly, or concerned friend, conversation with this person. Seriously, I don't care. I don't think less of these people...there is a crazy hippiness about this group of love type stuff. I don't know why another person thinks it is my duty to have the talk with this person. Im not in high school anymore. If its going on, have fun, be careful, all that happy horse shit...Im going to go shake my pon poms in the corner and pretend I don't see anything going on.
What do you guys think? Is it my place to step in and say something or do I let it ride and play itself out?


  1. I'd trust your intuition on this one. I think your right by letting it run it's course and (to use your analogy)stay cheering from the sidelines. It's a game where someone's probably going to get hurt and I wouldn't want to be on the field.
    Plus, Pom's Pom's are WAY cuter than ref uniforms.

  2. I hope you got my email yesterday, but I think you should stay out of it at all costs. It's not your marriage or your affair (I hope!) and if you stuck your nose in it you would surely lose every single one of those friends. I've seen it happen more than once among my circle.

  3. I definitely agree. Stay out of are completely right. It will run it's course and work out the way it should without your interference. I know this from hubby and I started dating when he was on the outs with his ex wife. They were splitting up, but it was still a touchy thing and had my friends butted in, we probably wouldn't be friends anymore. I'm glad they just minded their own business. It worked out for the best for everyone anyway.