Tuesday, July 28, 2009
I talked to Tiff yesterday. I simply told her that I don't care what she does as long as it makes her happy, but to do it for her, not for her pride, to push away embarrassement, to keep people from looking at her differently, but for her happiness. To truly step back and see if HE is willing to make the commitment to change. I told her that was all I could tell her. I also told her that I don't want him in my home. He has never been respectful to me and I don't have to deal with him if I don't want to. That she would always be welcome, but he is not. It was my decision. I told her I loved her, but couldn't sit back and watch her get continually abused, be it not physical but mental, and say nothing. So to alleviate the situation, I would be there for her if she needed me, but that I couldn't be around them together and to simply not mention her marital problems to me. This is hard for me. I have always been there for her to talk about ANYTHING with, but when you are going to get pissy with me for giving my two-cents, you lose that benefit. My friends are hard lovers. We tell each other exactly what we think. I think that's a good thing. You either take the advice or leave it, you don't get angry with someone for saying something that you don't want to hear. I just refuse to stress myself out over her situation anymore. period.